Hiya! I just stumbled across this poem and thought, “OH MY GAWSH THIS POEM IS LIKE, AN ESSENTIAL PILLAR OF WHAT IT IS TO BE A SMART GIRL!!!” So of course, I’ve gotta pass it along to you! The poet is Clementine von Radics, and it’s titled “For Teenage Girls With Wild Ambition and Trembling Hearts” and can be found here: http://clementinepoetry.com/post/95144402809/when-you-are-13-years-old-the-heat-will-be
When they’re babies, people will come up and say to you ‘Are they a boy or a girl?’ when the kid’s in the pram and you can’t tell. And immediately when you tell them which gender it is they will behave differently according to what you tell them. It got to the point where we didn’t want people to know what gender the baby was. Just treat it as you’d treat someone you wanted to be nice to! Why is it so important to you to know? And then you hear people saying ‘Oh, look at him, he’s a little flirt isn’t he’, or ‘Oooh, she’s gonna wrap you around her little finger’ and all this. What are you on about? She’s two months old, she’s just shat herself.